I'm not conflicting out or planning on saying only what little I need to. She's Elena. She'll always be Elena. And I don't know how she's feeling, but I'll do whatever she needs.
( but, again, that isn't what she asked. )
Seeing Elena will be like it always is. She's home. She'll always be home. And, for the first time in a long time, that's okay.
I understand wanting to keep things smooth, for the kids' sake, but I think you should also consider making time to resolve any lingering issues, if she's in a place for it.
( He wants to go at her, question what she means, use a tone. But, he knows what he needs to do. And what she deserves. Cami's made it clear. Their last conversation, he was out of line. )
I think it would help. And I think that smoothing out these lingering issues will help make things easier moving forward while you're semi-co-parenting. However long that may last.
[Cami pauses as she considers her answer because it's not a simple one. And it's not a problem that they can solve over night.]
You help them grieve what they've lost. Because it's going to be more than just their parents - it's any other family they had there, their friends, their lives as they understood them. And the process of that is going to be hard. But they have to grieve before they can move forward. And while I don't think they ever won't miss them, eventually you'll be able to build relationships with them on your own terms.
Do you say that because you don't think he would want to support you or because you don't want him to?
[She would point out that technically these kids are also Stefan's family to, but she wants to know if it's habit that has Damon dismissing his brother or something else.]
I say that because he's put up with a lot from me over the years. And in the midst of his happy Scotland ending, hunters came out of the woodwork. And then witches.
( And what's next? )
He has to protect himself, too. He has Buffy. Lindsay's here.
[She just wants to point that out, that one connection that he seems to be missing.]
They're your kids, which makes them his niece and nephew. He may not see it as drama to put up with. I know your relationship with Stefan is complicated, and does have a lot of baggage, but at least give him a chance.
Mmm, you're here so I stay this version of myself and not fall back into old, unhealthy ( violent ) patterns. ( why does he have to change her definitions and boundaries when she gives them to him. ) But, I'll remember you are. In case I need emergency shrinking.
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[She then pauses and asks the other question:]
How are you feeling about seeing Elena?
[They did leave things rather complicated the previous time they spoke and there has to be some layer of feelings about it under all the kid ones.]
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( but, again, that isn't what she asked. )
Seeing Elena will be like it always is. She's home. She'll always be home. And, for the first time in a long time, that's okay.
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[She pauses.]
I understand wanting to keep things smooth, for the kids' sake, but I think you should also consider making time to resolve any lingering issues, if she's in a place for it.
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I owe her an apology.
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I think it would help. And I think that smoothing out these lingering issues will help make things easier moving forward while you're semi-co-parenting. However long that may last.
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( What if he can't live up to that. )
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You help them grieve what they've lost. Because it's going to be more than just their parents - it's any other family they had there, their friends, their lives as they understood them. And the process of that is going to be hard. But they have to grieve before they can move forward. And while I don't think they ever won't miss them, eventually you'll be able to build relationships with them on your own terms.
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( He likes how she digs and excavates around in his muck. In the worst of the worst. That she gets answers. Explanations. Points. )
It might be harder on Elena, all told.
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But the point about Elena is sound.]
It might. But hopefully you'll both be able to support each other too. And your extended support systems, also.
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( But Lindsay is here. She is his friend. He knows that. )
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[She would point out that technically these kids are also Stefan's family to, but she wants to know if it's habit that has Damon dismissing his brother or something else.]
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( And what's next? )
He has to protect himself, too. He has Buffy. Lindsay's here.
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[She just wants to point that out, that one connection that he seems to be missing.]
They're your kids, which makes them his niece and nephew. He may not see it as drama to put up with. I know your relationship with Stefan is complicated, and does have a lot of baggage, but at least give him a chance.
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( He won't be able to leave him without. )
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Having Stefan present is one thing. Trusting him to emotionally be there for Damon seems to be another thing entirely.]
Okay. Just making sure.
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( They can be good to each other. They probably will be. )
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[So long as he's open to it.]
You have my number. If you need to call because things go awry, reach out. It's what I'm here for.
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[And with that, we will call this section of shrink sessions to a close.]